31 Days of Love Challenge
Yesterday was pretty easy, so much that I recommend doing it daily! J came home and I was overjoyed to see him walk through the door! He really does love it when I smile, show delight in his arrival, and kiss him like I haven't seen him in days! On to today...
Day Two
Listen attentively when he speaks. This is another day that may seem easier than it really is.
For example, J goes on and tells me a story from his workday...I look at him to listen..."today when we were watching the presentation..." and then I am already tweeting...or singing the song lyrics in my head...I hear a word here and there. This isn't ALL the time, not don't go calling me a bad wife lol but we tend to think we are paying attention, listening, when in reality we are just hearing what people tell us, but NOT really listening. We realize this happens because later on he mentions something about that conversation and I'm like "what? oh yeah!" and vice versa; he dozes off once in a while too.
I wonder if it's something from our generation, with so many distractions, or if it's always been like this? Anyhow, I definitely think listening will benefit the relationship. Wouldn't it feel good to get our partner's undivided attention and relevant feedback after we speak instead of "cool!" or "nice"? I know I would, and changes in relationships start with US, stetting the example, just like in everything else in life.
Remember what a compliment it is that your partner wants to share those stories with you. I know we may take if for granted, but it really is a good sign! He is sharing those parts of his life which clearly means he wants you to be a part of it, even if you really aren't, cause you aren't there to witness it. Really listening, tells your loved one you appreciate them and actually care about their words. Let go of other things on your mind so you can be present at the moment, with him! My goal is to listen to him more and to consider his words before I speak. Sometimes all they need is someone to hear what they have to say to feel validated, and as their companion, that' the least we can do!
Well good luck to you all! I hope you catch yourself if you find that you are dozing off into the insignificant distractions of life when "hearing" your loved ones so you can actually listen to them! Time for housewife duties! Yall know where to reach me, comment below, email me at wife.nextdoor@yahoo.com or tweet me!
xoxo,
wife-nextdoor <3
This is going to be a tougher one. It can be hard for me to really pay attention sometimes. Especially when he starts talking to me right when I've gotten my mind wrapped up in something else. Or when he goes on and on and on about something that I know nothing about (cars, computers, etc.). Sometimes I think he just likes to hear himself talk and he doesn't even care if I'm listening. But then he'll throw something important in the middle of it.. and then later when it comes up again he'll say 'why weren't you listening?' So yeah.. this is one that I really need to work on!
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