Lose an argument, win a relationship...

31 Days of Love Challenge

 

I hope everyone had enough time for the picture gift to your man...did he love it or did he love it?! My husband has his on his nightstand since he doesn't have an office yet lol. Today is another challenge to work on accordingly...

Day Twenty Five

 

Pick your battles. This is great relationship advice I have heard/read for a while. The first time I heard it, it was from a friend who had been in a LTR for about 4yrs. I was younger and dumbfounded to say the least. Especially because when we are younger we always want things our way and when they don't happen it's easy to get angry and argue with your man about it.

 

The hardest part of this challenge and relationships too, is to learn how to compromise. Picking your battles means choosing what’s worth getting angry over and what's not. A lot of the times we argue over things that they do that annoy/bother us...and a lot of the times most of those things are not big things to waste negative energy over. Yes you can talk about things, but not if you are going to blow it out of proportion and fight...sometimes it doesn't even help and it just makes your partner mad at you too. I have been guilty of that. This sucks happiness from our life and relationship. Remember that our job is not to control our men, but we can control how we react to situations. In choosing what angers and frustrates us, we are choosing how much joy we keep in our marriage/relationship. Focus instead on learning when anger is the appropriate response and when you need to let it go. The battle is not with your partner, it's about you.

 

 

Well although I may have rambled on, I hope you got the main point of the challenge and you start to change your outlook on those daily annoyances, especially the ones caused by your man that aren't as big as we think at the time...like the fact that he always leaves his clothes on the floor or he decided to go out instead of finishing a house project. Maybe he needed to de-stress with his friends, but remember he'll be back home to finish that project at another down time...especially if you remind him nicely ;)  Well yall know where to reach me, comment below, email me at wife.nextdoor@yahoo.com or tweet me!

xoxo,

                           wife-nextdoor <3