31 Days of Love Challenge
Yesterday's challenge is something I vow to work on everyday. I can't say that I will be on top of it every time J speaks but if I work on it, then I will naturally become a better listener...and not just to my husband, but to all my loved ones...and I can truly say that that's a virtue.
Day Three
Schedule time alone...without petty technology. You can start out with as little as 30 min and at least once a month.
I recommend doing something you both enjoy, board games, read a book together, play some sport, ask each other questions, walk your dogs and actually play with them, if you have kids play with your child(ren) as a family. I know I said time alone so you might be like "with our children too?!" lol and by alone I mean without technology. Yeah time as a couple is amazing too and that is coming up on another day of this challenge, so don't worry about that.
I chose this challenge because it's something we don't really think about when we hang out with our love. We just do our things but text throughout or we are both on the computer and we talk and spend time together...but it's not really all that nurturing to the relationship.
I discovered how beneficial and precious this was just a few weeks ago. J and I were home and I suggested board games, but he isn't big on them if there isn't a big group of people. Hmm...what to do I thought...I was done of always watching tv and being on computer together...it's soo overdone. So I went to our bookshelf and found this trivia book of questions and answers! I told J to let me ask him questions and he would answer them. This was great for us because HE just loves trivia and lives for games like "Trivial Pursuit". The fact that I was asking him questions and he was answering them just helped me to learn things I didn't know before...and that might help next time we play said board game lol. Anyway we spent at least 45min with that book and let me just tell you...the bonding that happened that day was at least 10 times greater than our typical night.
Another thing we did before like that was go kick a soccer ball. Another hobby of J's but it was fun being with him and seeing our competitive sides.
Well those are some examples of more valuable ways to spend time with your partner that will strengthen your relationship. I hope you all try it! Yall know where to reach me, comment below, email me at wife.nextdoor@yahoo.com or tweet me!
xoxo,
wife-nextdoor <3
Things like this require BOTH spouses to be involved and committed to making it happen. I mean, I can ask my husband if we can do something like this together. But that doesn't guarantee that he'll comply. I can put MY phone away, but I can't force him to do the same. But I will certainly do what I can. :)
ReplyDeletewell start with asking him for at least 15 min, I mean as your husband, he should want to comply and at least give you that little bit of time...if not I would feel bad ):
ReplyDeleteand idk what I'd do but start slow...