The birds and the bees...

31 Days of Love Challenge

 

I hope everyone had a sexy Friday night lol we did and today has been cloudy and rainy over here so it's a lazy Saturday it seems. Today we shall continue on the same topic.

Day Twenty Seven

 

Talk about your sex life. Are you both getting fulfilled sexually? What else do you guys want to try under the sheets? Role playing? More passion? A new sex move? Share your deepest desires!

 

 

This may sound and seem like an embarrassing subject to talk about but in reality, if you're with the right person, in a serious relationship, it shouldn't be. A great marriage/relationship thrives with many things including a healthy sex life and if you don't talk about it, how can it get better and continue to bind you together to your partner? There's a reason why it's called intimacy. Don't be afraid of your man's reaction, who knows...he might even like that you are actually talking about how to make it more fun and pleasurable ;)

 

 

 Well I kept it short and to the point today...you lovely ladies know where to reach me, comment below, email me at wife.nextdoor@yahoo.com or tweet me!

xoxo,

                           wife-nextdoor <3

oh loverboy

31 Days of Love Challenge

 

Yesterday's challenge is a difficult one to get started on because sometimes we may act a certain way in the heat of the moment and it's hard to recognize when it's not good for our relationship. I do hope I gave you a bit more awareness on that subject though!

Day Twenty Six

 

Dress up in something he finds irresistible; send him a picture while he's away. Today is Fri and no better night to get it on...if you know what I mean ;) This is a pretty straightforward challenge day (:

 

 

When your man is gone, preferably at work, put on whatever he finds seductive...be it a certain lingerie, stockings, high heels, his tshirt w.nothing else on? Whatever drives him crazy, you should know ;) Then take a picture on your phone and send it to him...you can do it without showing your face but I think you could trust your man with a sexy picture...you could delete it when he arrives home anyway, if you're worried about it getting in the wrong hands. Sending your loverboy a hot picture especially when he's not around will have him wanting you even more since he can't literally have you right away and it will build anticipation...this is great if let's be honest...you've been craving some intimate time lol

 

Yes I am aware that our self taken pic will NOT look this awesome lol but we can all dream =P

 

Well I hope you all get "lucky" tonight and enjoy your Friday with your partner...you ladies know where to reach me, comment below, email me at wife.nextdoor@yahoo.com or tweet me!

xoxo,

                           wife-nextdoor <3

Lose an argument, win a relationship...

31 Days of Love Challenge

 

I hope everyone had enough time for the picture gift to your man...did he love it or did he love it?! My husband has his on his nightstand since he doesn't have an office yet lol. Today is another challenge to work on accordingly...

Day Twenty Five

 

Pick your battles. This is great relationship advice I have heard/read for a while. The first time I heard it, it was from a friend who had been in a LTR for about 4yrs. I was younger and dumbfounded to say the least. Especially because when we are younger we always want things our way and when they don't happen it's easy to get angry and argue with your man about it.

 

The hardest part of this challenge and relationships too, is to learn how to compromise. Picking your battles means choosing what’s worth getting angry over and what's not. A lot of the times we argue over things that they do that annoy/bother us...and a lot of the times most of those things are not big things to waste negative energy over. Yes you can talk about things, but not if you are going to blow it out of proportion and fight...sometimes it doesn't even help and it just makes your partner mad at you too. I have been guilty of that. This sucks happiness from our life and relationship. Remember that our job is not to control our men, but we can control how we react to situations. In choosing what angers and frustrates us, we are choosing how much joy we keep in our marriage/relationship. Focus instead on learning when anger is the appropriate response and when you need to let it go. The battle is not with your partner, it's about you.

 

 

Well although I may have rambled on, I hope you got the main point of the challenge and you start to change your outlook on those daily annoyances, especially the ones caused by your man that aren't as big as we think at the time...like the fact that he always leaves his clothes on the floor or he decided to go out instead of finishing a house project. Maybe he needed to de-stress with his friends, but remember he'll be back home to finish that project at another down time...especially if you remind him nicely ;)  Well yall know where to reach me, comment below, email me at wife.nextdoor@yahoo.com or tweet me!

xoxo,

                           wife-nextdoor <3

Hold me in a picture

31 Days of Love Challenge

 

Yesterday's challenge is one we can work on daily. Now today's challenge is fairly easy so it can be done pretty fast...which I like hehe

Day Twenty Four

 

Print a "sexy"/cute pic of you and frame it. Give it to your man with Hershey kisses.This is a sweet detail added to the gift of the picture of you. Tell him it's for his office, or maybe his bedside? Depends where he works and all lol

I like this idea because it's a small inexpensive gift that he will be able to look at and think of you. He will be reminded of what a beautiful woman he has and hopefully appreciate you more. You might wonder how a simple picture might do this, but seriously seeing a nice picture of you daily while at work or before bed will get him thinking of you at least for a few minutes more and hopefully in a positive way since you are the one choosing the picture ;)

 

this is the one I got J, semi sexy pose, then us two which was extra <3

 

 So go ahead...look through your pictures and choose one to print either at home or at walmart/walgreens/cvs online and pick it up! No need to go all out on picture frame since guys don't care much for those details anyway lol. Well you ladies know where to reach me, comment below, email me at wife.nextdoor@yahoo.com or tweet me!

xoxo,

                           wife-nextdoor <3

Keep in mind to always...

31 Days of Love Challenge

Okay you guys! I can't hide my excitement but it's a month until my birthday! Obviously under 30 if I am still excited right? lol Well back to challenge...how did your talk go? Did you realize a bad habit you didn't know bothered your partner? Was it a big deal or was it something silly? In our case, J hates when/if we argue that I shut down instead of talking about it. Personally I do it because I'd rather stay quiet than say things I'll regret later but now that I realize he'd rather me talk about it immediately, I will have to think about what I'll say before so I avoid any mean comments. On to today...

Day TwentyThree

 

Protect his reputation. Don't speak bad about your man to friends/family. Always make him look good and your love will grow stronger. (This does not include diaries/blogs/or twitter where you may be anonymous or where you don't have people you know)

Yes he will make you angry, yes he will act in ways that will frustrate you, but in the end if you are with him in the long run, you will get through those things. Most of our arguments are probably over frivolous things anyway...think about it! I do know how annoying it may be to ask him to take the trash out every Monday when he should already know but men just need direction most of the time lol. You as his wife/partner, need to protect his reputation by always speaking well of him. If you get mad at him and go to your mom or friends every time you guys disagree, of course your loved ones will be on your side and then they will resent your man for making you feel that way. If they only see or hear about him when you guys argue they will think that's all there is to him. Don't forget to emphasize when he goes beyond and above even in small things. Always talk about the good and what a great husband he is. You can vent on a diary or on twitter if you don't have people you know, or if you don't like these options, of course you can vent to your friends, but remind them that it is just an argument which happen in marriage/relationships, and you still love him and not to be mad at him because he IS a great companion.

This is a simple task we may forget in the heat of the moment, but it is great to the relationship and to your man's esteem. Imagine when a friend tell them how you always speak amazing things of him...he will feel proud to be your partner and empowered. Well, yall know where to reach me, comment below, email me at wife.nextdoor@yahoo.com or tweet me!

xoxo,

                           wife-nextdoor <3

Getting real

31 Days of Love Challenge

 

I hope everyone had a fantastic family Sunday, unfortunately we don't live in the same state as family so we just had our own little family day. The weekend just went by a little too fast considering it was 3 day for us ;)

Day Twenty One

 

Ask your man what is the one thing he likes least about you or the way you act so you can work on it. Maybe do it while drinking coffee or during some down time. Beware only to do today's challenge if you are willing to listen to what he has to say and not get offended. This is not to get mad at your guy, this is to better your relationship by working on something that displeases your love.

Maybe it's the fact that you don't talk to him when you get angry? Maybe it's when you say whatever when you are in the middle of an argument. Or maybe it's something silly like the fact that you always change the tv to TLC not even realizing that he is watching the tv lol. Or he really hates those faux leather pants you wear ahahah. Whatever his biggest dislike may be, your goal is to tell him why you do it/like it and then listen to his reasoning on why he does not. You guys will see each other's perspectives and then decide accordingly. In the case of your attitude on arguments, I know you can change to be more positive next time...and in the case of him disliking your pants lol...he can get over it o you might wear it less often? Personally I know J doesn't like heels with straps and I have a few pairs. He's never told me NOT to wear them, but either way I try to only wear them when I'm going out with mom or friends and aren't w.J all day. It's my choice...I still rock them and aren't deprived and he doesn't even notice! (: Well maybe and hopefully after you ask him today's question, your beau may even ask you what you dislike about him...but if he does, tell him not to get offended just as you didn't.

 

I wish you all good luck and strength in today's endeavor. It could go from fun and frivolous to serious and becoming a heart to heart. Either way, it should make your relationship better if you take things positively, keep an open mind, and not get offended. Well, ya know where to reach me, comment below, email me at wife.nextdoor@yahoo.com or tweet me!

xoxo,

                           wife-nextdoor <3